Told that I am different

[livetobike]

OK all, after knowing someone for a short or long time do you get from them that you are different?? I get that a lot and then ask why they say I am different, I get no answer... Is it because I do not talk that much??
Then usually after that I do not see them anymore..

Anyone have ideas about this??

Thanks, bike

[Toefur]

Who are the people?

I haven't ever had that happen. Most just state the obvious that I am quiet then never really say anything else to me. Anyway, I think not saying much makes people uncomfortable, but you could also have strange mannerisms or style of dress. I don't know you enough to say.

What people? Friends? coworkers? random bystander?

[mspnats]

livetobike said:

OK all, after knowing someone for a short or long time do you get from them that you are different?? I get that a lot and then ask why they say I am different, I get no answer... Is it because I do not talk that much??
Then usually after that I do not see them anymore..

Anyone have ideas about this??

Thanks, bike

I have no idea. It is hard to say if noone ever gives you any honest feedback.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. There are other people who would want to be around you.

I have gotten a little feedback on this over the years like i'm too quiet, hard to get to know, aloof, intimidating, etc.

[livetobike]

Thanks Mspnats, yes I get a lot of your to quiet, and say something, you need to be more aggressive.... I like the way I am and if others can not deal with it, to bad..

[kitten]

I get that sometimes, but it's not always a bad thing. I'd get that I'm "different than most girls" from certain guys and I take that as a compliment. That I take to mean I'm not loud, I'm easier to talk to because I don't talk about myself all the time, etc. People tell me I have a sense of innocence about me, I guess because I am quiet. Then they're always surprised that I'm not a little goody two-shoes. I know people think that I am different, but to come out and actually say that to me is a different story. Why do people say stuff like that? What response do they expect out of you? Wierd.

Are you sure they mean it to be a bad thing, though? Maybe they're just pointing it out as a positive thing, and perhaps you feel self-conscious after that and as a result act differently, then maybe they pick up on that. I've always hated when people point out that I'm quiet, I feel like saying "no shit, sherlock, you want a medal?"

[MissCrash]

People tell me I have a sense of innocence about me, I guess because I am quiet. Then they're always surprised that I'm not a little goody two-shoes.

lol! I love that. I'm always surprising people with my devilish qualities and I have to say I love doin it ;D

[zoegonzalez]

livetobike said:

OK all, after knowing someone for a short or long time do you get from them that you are different?? I get that a lot and then ask why they say I am different, I get no answer...

I get that my being different is a good thing. Until, of course, it isn't and then it's just done .

It just happened - whatever it is. All was well, then there was a distance, then they where gone. When the distance started I asked what was up - nothing. Then there is the Grand Canyon & no idea what happened, no response to the questions. It wears you down, I've been beating myself up for months trying to figure it out.

I have no answer for you or myself, it sucks though.

[livetobike]

Thanks Zoegonzalez, I guess I am not the only one that gets this treatment from the ones that talk all the time and think that they are special... But it sucks to try to make friends and they do not know you are there...